R. K. MAHAJAN, J. ( 1 ) THIS appeal raises interesting questions in the context of strained family life of husband and wife. The plea of wife appellant is that she is entitled to the company of husband who is an engineer at the places of his posting. Her repeated grievance is that she wants company of her husband at Sillgudl where he is presently posted, to enjoy the marital rites. The plea of husband respondent is that the wife should reside at his parents house and he cannot take her at different places of his posting. There is one more factor in this case which come Up during the negotiations held in our Chambers as required under the Statute, that the husband is not ready and willing even to have a separate residential accommodation at Agra where he has settled whereas the wife is ready to live with the husband even in small accommodation. Thus, the main question for determination by this Court is whether in the circumstances narrated above, the conduct of husband amount to desertion and cruelty? ( 2 ) THE trial court has passed decree of divorce believing the version of husband to be correct and has granted maintenance of Rs. 1,000 per month to the wife. ( 3 ) THE second question involved in this appeal is whether the wife is entitled to get custody of the child, namely, Anupam Shah (alias Shrenik Shah) aged about 4 years at the time of filing of the plaint who is presently living with his real maternal uncle and is getting education there. The wife appellant is living at Loharia with her brother. ( 4 ) THE husband respondent is an Engineer. His two wives died earlier on account of different reasons which will be stated later on. Similarly, the wife appellant had also given divorce to her former husband on the ground of impotency. ( 5 ) THE appeal has been filed against the decree and judgment dated 9. 9. 96 passed by the Judge, family Court, Agra granting decree of divorce and allowing the custody of the child to the respondent, the father and granting maintenance of Rs. 1,000 per month to the wife appellant. ( 6 ) IN is not disputed that the marriage took place between the parties in accordance with Hindu rites at Agra on 17th July. 1,000 per month to the wife appellant. ( 6 ) IN is not disputed that the marriage took place between the parties in accordance with Hindu rites at Agra on 17th July. 1986 and after having a peaceful married life for some time, a male child was born on 8th May, 1987. namely, Anupam Shah. The version of husband respondent is that the wifes pressure was to persuade the husband respondent to live separately from his parent to which he did not agree. She created problems in the house by way of abusing the parents and other members of family. She used to threaten the family members to implicate in false criminal cases. She did not spare even her husband from using derogatory language, it is alleged that while the husband was posted at Sillgudi. she left the house for her parents house without permission of husband or his family members. He sent his close relations, i. e. . brother-in-law, sisters and friends to bring her back but she did not return back. Later on. since the wife has withdrew from the society of husband without reasonable excuse, hence he moved a petition for restitution of conjugal rights under Section 9 of Hindu Marriage Act. Thereafter the petition under Section 9 was converted into petition under Section 13 of Hindu Marriage Act and it is also alleged that the said conversion of the petition was allowed with the consent of wife. It appears that an other application was also filed by the husband for the custody of the child. ( 7 ) THE wife appellant has denied desertion and cruelty on her part to the husband. She has stated that prior to her marriage with the respondent, he had married one Smita of Kanpur and treated her with cruelty as a result of which that marriage was dissolved. Thereafter he again married one Anna of Jaipur who died in suspicious circumstances at the house of the respondent. In her statement the wife appellant has denied to have pressurised her husband respondent to live separately from his parents and has stated that she has been behaving respectfully with the husband and his family members as is expected of a married lady. She has further alleged that the husband respondent wanted a child from her and thereafter he started creating a situation of divorce so as to get the custody of child. She has further alleged that the husband respondent wanted a child from her and thereafter he started creating a situation of divorce so as to get the custody of child. The wife appellant has further stated that on the eve of "rakshabandhan" in the year 1990 her brother came to Agra to take her to Gwalior but he was not properly treated by the family members of the husband and he was told that he could take his sister (wife/appellant) but the child would not be sent at any cost. The appellants brother conveyed it to her parents at Gwalior, then family members came to take her even then the husband and his family members did not agree to send the child with her mother, i. e. . wife appellant. It is denied that she went Gwalior at her own account or she was forcibly taken to gwalior as stated by the husband respondent. ( 8 ) IN her statement the wife appellant has further stated that she was not treated as wife by the in-laws but as a maid servant. No proper fooding and clothing was provided to her. She has also stated in her statement that she did not take any valuable thing with her while going to Gwalior on 4. 5. 90 whereas her father had given Rs. 30,000 in cash. 9 Tolla gold, etc. But it all remained with her husband. In her written statement the appellant has stated that her husband respondent had beaten her on 27. 6. 87, 12. 10. 87, 11. 7. 90, 12. 7. 90 and 13. 7. 90. Even her husbands brother anil Kumar beaten her on 14. 9. 88. She was beaten and ousted from the house. It is further alleged that after 1990 her husband never came to take her to his house. ( 9 ) THE husband respondent examined 5 witnesses Including himself as P. W. 1, Radha KIshan p. W. 2. Radha Vallabh P. W. 3, Som Chand Shah P. W. 4 and Varma Shah P. W. 5. The wife appellant examined herself as D. W. 1 and her brother Prem Kumar as D. W. 2. ( 10 ) THE Judge Family Court has believed that version of husband respondent and has found the cruelty by wife proved and the cruelty by husband not proved. The issue of desertion has been decided in favour of the husband. The wife appellant examined herself as D. W. 1 and her brother Prem Kumar as D. W. 2. ( 10 ) THE Judge Family Court has believed that version of husband respondent and has found the cruelty by wife proved and the cruelty by husband not proved. The issue of desertion has been decided in favour of the husband. ( 11 ) IT is very unfortunate that the judgment of the Judge Family Court is running into 38 pages. Writing of lengthy judgments by the Family Courts is not the statutory expectation but it appears that they are behaving like civil courts. The judgments of Family Courts should be precise, and points for determination, brief discussion of evidence and criticism of the same and the efforts made for settlement. Otherwise the very purpose of establishing Family Courts for expeditious disposal of matrimonial disputes will be frustrated as the Judges of Family Courts would spend more and more time in writing lengthy Judgments and will go on prolonging the proceedings ( 12 ) IN the grounds of appeal it is averred that the Judge Family Court has committed mistake in converting the petitioner under Section 9 of Hindu Marriage Act Into petition under Section 13 of Hindu Marriage Act. It has committed further illegality : in rejecting the application for refund of Stridhan and directing the custody of minor child to the father from mother. It is further averred that the Family Court erred in arriving at the finding recorded by it in view of the fact that the husband respondent was serving in All India Radio, Siliguri (Assam) and did not took his wife there and the question of separation does not arise. It is further averred that the findings of desertion and cruelty are not sustainable. It is also averred that the Family Court did not weigh properly the evidence on record. In ground No. 18 it is also alleged that the wife appellant was not given proper opportunity to cross-examine the P. Ws. ( 13 ) WE would like to consider the substance of the evidence adduced by both the parties. P. W. 1 kiran Kumar Shah as supported his version mentioned in the plaint. In ground No. 18 it is also alleged that the wife appellant was not given proper opportunity to cross-examine the P. Ws. ( 13 ) WE would like to consider the substance of the evidence adduced by both the parties. P. W. 1 kiran Kumar Shah as supported his version mentioned in the plaint. From his statement we find that his main grievance is that his wife started pressurising him to have a separate residence from his parents immediately after birth of the child and on this issue quarrel started between husband and wife. The wife went to Gwallor without his consent. During cross-examination wife put some suggestions regarding looking after the child and imparting education which the husband has denied. ( 14 ) P. W. 2 is a witness of the fact that the in-laws of the wife came to the house of the husband in the absence of husband, they were quarreling, he asked them to tell him the reason of quarrel and came to know that the relations of wife wanted to take with them the appellant (wife) with child to Gwalior and they took with them the appellant and the child after signing the paper No. 70ga. It is alleged that some injuries were received by the brother of the husband but no medical examination took place. ( 15 ) P. W. 3 Radha Vallabh is also a neighbour. He also deposed the fact that the relations of wife had come to take the child and the appellant with them as the school had opened. There was some quarrel going on over taking of the child when he reached there. The paper No. 70ga was written and signed in his presence. The appellant and the child went. ( 16 ) P. W. 4 father of the husband has supported the version regarding coming of relations of the appellant and taking of the child to Gwaliar after signing the paper No. 70ga. He has also stated that the behaviour of the appellant was not proper. She was abusing but he has not stated the exact words of abuse. ( 17 ) THE statements of P. Ws. 2 and 3 have been criticised by the counsel for the appellant saying that they are not reliable as they are the chance witnesses. ( 18 ) D. W. 1 is the wife appellant. She was abusing but he has not stated the exact words of abuse. ( 17 ) THE statements of P. Ws. 2 and 3 have been criticised by the counsel for the appellant saying that they are not reliable as they are the chance witnesses. ( 18 ) D. W. 1 is the wife appellant. The substance of her statement shows that she was not allowed to be treated as Bahu in the house. She was not allowed to feed the child nor was kept in a position to feed the child timely. Whenever she asked the husband about his visits he replied that she was not concerned with it. His intention was to take birth of a child and thereafter to kick her out. She further stated that she is living at her parents house since 4. 5. 90. She had delivered the child at Agra and her mother-in-law looked after her properly in the hospital. ( 19 ) LEARNED counsel for the appellant contended that there is no evidence on record regarding cruelty and desertion and the Judge Family Court has committed error in appreciating the evidence to arrive at the conclusion of cruelty and desertion. He has further contended that the p. Ws. 2 and 3 are chance witnesses and they do not prove cruelty and desertion. He has also contended that the approach of the Judge Family Court regarding the custody of the child is not legal as welfare of the child lies with the mother. He also contended that the amount of maintenance is too meagure. ( 20 ) LEARNED counsel for the respondent has supported the judgment of Family Court and gave an offer that the husband respondent is ready and willing to live with the wife appellant. He contended that there is no question of cruelly on the part of the husband respondent as the marriage in question was the third marriage. ( 21 ) CATENA of authorities have been cited by both sides but they need not be referred, the relevant judicial precedents on the question of cruelty and desertion have been considered by us. ( 22 ) THE Judge Family Court has given a wrong finding regarding desertion and cruelty. It has been repeatedly ruled by the Apex Court as well as the High Court that there should be intention to desert and to bring the cohabitation to an end permanently. ( 22 ) THE Judge Family Court has given a wrong finding regarding desertion and cruelty. It has been repeatedly ruled by the Apex Court as well as the High Court that there should be intention to desert and to bring the cohabitation to an end permanently. There should be factum of separation and animus desrendi. Under Section 13 (1) (i-b) of Hindu Marriage Act there should be desertion for a continuous period of not less than (wo years immediately preceding the presentation of the petition. In Explanation of Section 13 the desertion has further been explained. In this Explanation the expression desertion means the desertion of the petitioner by the other party to the marriage without reasonable cause and without the consent or against the wish of such party, and includes the wilful neglect of the petitioner by the other party to the marriage, and Its grammatical variations and cognate expressions shall be construed accordingly. In this case we find that the desertion is on the part of the husband. The husband is not taking her to Slliguri. He does not want to hire separate quarter. As regards the wish of the wife appellant to live separately from his parents, now a days the trend in the society is that newly married ladles want to live separately to have their separate life with the husband. Mere pressure by a wife on the husband to live separately from the parents is not a sufficient ground for divorce or cruelty. If that is held to be so it would create a chaos in the society and so many marriages would break. Sons duty to parents is not diluted and he is bound to look after his parents but he has to do so as far as possible because he has not to disturb the peace of his mind after his marriage if the wife wants to live separately from his parents. The married couple wants to start a separate matrimonial home. Even the parents would not mind if the son and the daughter-in-law live happily with the child and with the passage time every thing comes to a normal level. The married couple wants to start a separate matrimonial home. Even the parents would not mind if the son and the daughter-in-law live happily with the child and with the passage time every thing comes to a normal level. The husband has failed to explain as to why he did not take the wife if she wants company of husband as the place of his posting for satisfaction of conjugal relations as it is one of the basic essential features of a married life. The husband did not discharge the duty of a prudent husband by refusing to take her to Slliguri where he was posted. Then there was no course left for the wife except to go to her parents and to live there with the child. It becomes very unfortunate state of affairs in the society if the brothers and close relations of the wife have to bear the burden of maintaining sister and her children. In the married life there has to be give and take. So many small matters have to be tolerated. The role of abusing and throwing utensils etc. assigned to the wife appellant does not seem to be believable and there is no evidence of physical and mental cruelty on the part of the wife. The Legislature itself in its wisdom has mentioned the ground of cruelty in Section 13 (i-a) of Hindu Marriage Act in the following words : " (i-a) has, after the colemnization of the marriage, treated the petitioner with cruelty : the cruelly can be physical and metal. There is no evidence of cruelty in the Instant case nor the wife who is an illiterate lady and is a divorcee prior to the marriage in question, in the normal course of business can be presumed to go to that extent. How it can be said that even if she went to her parents house she committed cruelty. It is repeatedly stated by the wife that the husband wanted a child from her and then to kick her out. Learned counsel for the wife appellant submitted that the husband respondent was misbehaving with previous wifes also. How it can be said that even if she went to her parents house she committed cruelty. It is repeatedly stated by the wife that the husband wanted a child from her and then to kick her out. Learned counsel for the wife appellant submitted that the husband respondent was misbehaving with previous wifes also. We do not want to comment much on his behaviour with previous wlfes but the attitude of the husband respondent with the wife appellant in the instant case does not seem to be reasonable, rather it appears to be neglectful which can be termed as wilful also as he was not acceding to the request of the wife. We cannot believe the injuries alleged to have been inflicted by the relations of wife/appellant at the time of taking the child, as no medical report is on record nor any report was lodged with the police. It seems that some quarrel by words was going on which was solved by writing of paper No. 70ga. ( 23 ) WE reverse the findings of Family Court regarding desertion and cruelty as the approach of family Court is thoroughly misconceived both on law and facts and as such is not sustalnable. The Family Court appears to have not cared to read the alms and objects of the Family Courts act which is as under. "an Act to provide for the establishment of Family Courts with a view to promote conciliation in, and secure speedy settlement of. disputes relating to marriage and family affairs and for matters connected there with. " the emphasis is no promoting conciliation and there by preserving the marriage but while deciding the appeals we have seen that Family Courts are mostly passing the decree of divorce. ( 24 ) LEARNED counsel for the husband/respondent Sri Prakash Chand submitted that the wife/appellant is a lady of adament nature and the respondent/husband and his family members are keen to keep her specially when she has given birth to a male child but he could not substantiate it when he was asked about the fact as to why the husband did not take her at different places of his posting and to live separately and he could not reply it with cogent reasons. Therefore, we straightaway brush aside his submissions. Therefore, we straightaway brush aside his submissions. ( 25 ) LEARNED counsel for the appellant has further submitted that the Family Court should not have allowed the conversion of application for restitution of conjugal rights to the divorce petition. We do not find any weight in this argument. The application under Section 9 is filed on the ground that the other party, without any reasonable excuse, withdrawn from his society and therefore, the conjugal rights be restituted. The Courts have been granting permission for converting the applications for restitution of conjugal rights into the petitions for divorce, with a view to cut short the litigation. This submission of learned counsel for the appellant also falls to grounds in view of statutory provisions of Section 23a of the Hindu Marriage Act which reads as under : "23a. Relief for respondent in divorce and other proceedings. In any proceeding for divorce or judicial separation or restitution of conjugal rights, the respondent may not only oppose the relief sought on the ground of petitioners adultery, cruelty or desertion, but- also make a counter-claim for any relief under this Act on that ground, and if the petitioners adultery, cruelty or desertion is proved, the Court may give to the respondent any relief under this Act to which he or she would have been entitled if he or she had presented a petition seeking such relief on that ground. " the above quoted provision has been brought on the statute book by Act No. 68 of 1976. If the relief of divorcees available on the ground of cruelty and desertion in a counter claim it is not understandable as to how the proceedings for restitution of conjugal rights cannot be converted into those of divorce, in order to expedite the proceedings. ( 26 ) NOW we would like to deal the issue of custody of child. The child is 9 years old now and is studying at Gwallar. The wife has been found with her brothers who are well of financially. The child is being given education in the best school and environment. She has already placed on record materials regarding schools in which the child is studying. The basic principle in deciding the custody of the child is as to with whom the walfare of child lies. The wife has been found with her brothers who are well of financially. The child is being given education in the best school and environment. She has already placed on record materials regarding schools in which the child is studying. The basic principle in deciding the custody of the child is as to with whom the walfare of child lies. It can be given even to third party if in the opinion of the Court the welfare of the child lies there. In this regard statutory provisions of Section 13 of Hindu Minority and Guardianship Act, 1956 are very relevant and they are as follows : "13. Welfare of minor to be paramount consideration.-- (1) in the appointment or declaration of any person as guardian of a Hindu minor by a Court, the welfare of the minor shall be the paramount consideration. (2) No person shall be entitled to the guardianship by virtue of the provisions of this Act or of any law relating to guardianship in marriage among Hindus, if the Court is of opinion that his or her guardianship will not be for the welfare of the minor. " no doubt, father is natural guardian under Section 6 of aforementioned Guardianship Act but it cannot supersede the paramount consideration of welfare of the minor, but there is a non-substante clause regarding welfare of the minor. The boy, from his own point of view, ought to be in the custody of the mother. The boy will get more love and affection from his mother. There is no allegation of unchestity or adultery against the mother. Had the father been anxious to give best attention to the child, he would have kept the mother and child at respective places of his postings and he would have not refused the proposal of the wife to keep her at respective places of his postings. We do not want to burden the record unnecessarily by citing catena of authorities of Privy Council, Apex Court and various High Courts Including this Court as the legal position on the point is well-settled that the Court has to see the welfare of the child under the facts and circumstances of each case. We do not want to burden the record unnecessarily by citing catena of authorities of Privy Council, Apex Court and various High Courts Including this Court as the legal position on the point is well-settled that the Court has to see the welfare of the child under the facts and circumstances of each case. Thus, in our view Family Court has erred in giving custody of the child in the facts and circumstances of instant case to the father, consequently we set aside the same and direct that since in our view the welfare of the child lies with the mother, the child be given in the custody of mother /appellant. ( 27 ) NOW we would deal with the maintenance part of the case. The husband is an Engineer. The family Court has erred in awarding a meagure amount of Rs. 1,000 only as maintenance. The amount of maintenance for wife should be such that she can maintain and keep herself in the same standard in which she could have lived with her husband. No doubt, the amount should not be excessive but however, it must be reasonable. Considering the fact that the wife has to maintain the child also apart from herself and keeping in view the standard of the husband and also his liability to maintain his parents, we enhance the maintenance amount of wife from Rs. 1,000 to Rs. 1,500 per month and reverse the findings of Family Court to that extent. ( 28 ) IN the grounds of appeal one of the grounds is that the application does not lie for return of articles presented at the time of marriage. We do not agree with the findings of Family Court in this regard also. Section 27 of the Hindu Marriage Act postulates that the Court may make such provisions in the decree as it deems just and proper with respect to any property presented. at or about the time of marriage, which may belong jointly to both the husband and the wife. Thus, it is clear that the application does lie. However, in the instant case, since we have preserved the marriage hence there is no necessity to pass any order regarding return of articles. ( 29 ) IN view of the discussions made above we are of the considered opinion that the appeal deserves to be allowed. Thus, it is clear that the application does lie. However, in the instant case, since we have preserved the marriage hence there is no necessity to pass any order regarding return of articles. ( 29 ) IN view of the discussions made above we are of the considered opinion that the appeal deserves to be allowed. ( 30 ) IN the result the appeal succeeds and is allowed. The impugned judgment and decree of divorce is set aside. The amount of maintenance to the wife is enhanced from Rs. 1,000 per month to Rs. 1,500 per month. The custody of minor child is directed to be given to the mother, i. e. , the appellant. There shall, however, be no order as to costs. Binod Kumar Roy, J. ( 31 ) I agree. .